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Know the true meaning of a relationship.......It is important!!!


Hello all,
LOVE.....What it is............and what makes it true........, I tried to elucidate this in my previous articleTRUE LOVE......... 
In this article, I pondered on Making and breaking a relationship. My concern here is on the way relationships start and end. So, these days, we have a lot of craze for having a partner(lover as we call them). Relationships start so quickly-I mean, people call it love so soon as if there is no other relationship(name)  for that sort of relationship. So after some days or years of exchanging thoughts, gifts and much more, differences arise between them. They see that as an end to their love and their relationship. Finally, it's a break-up. The story doesn't end here.The present trend is to celebrate a break-up! So soon there is a new relationship. And it is again called as love. They again miss each other, share many things including the story of past breakup(s). Nothing wrong, it shows that people are open minded.
MOVE ON........
One of my friends told me this-"After a breakup, you have to move on quickly. If there is a breakup it just means that the relationship didn't work well".  It is true. If a relationship didn't work well, you got to end it. You got to move on. But does move on means, searching for another partner and starting everything afresh with them?  Yeah, this is also fine when you do not have time to wait and need to find a partner(I mean if you have to marry someone and you are already old). But when you are still young and you have ample time and energy, then should you move on to some other person?
MOVED ON........
Many people move on to some other very quickly without a second thought. I do not have any problem with them. But I have a problem when they call it LOVE. If it was love, then you must have shared a significant part of your life with your EX, and you might have made many promises, You might have dreamt your life with him(her). And all this, you do not do superficially, to woo your partner, but it might have come from the depths of your heart. You would have spent millions of minutes thinking about the beauty of your relationship, the strength of your emotion.
After a breakup, you just move on, without a second thought!!!
How can a human heart share two contrasting and very strong emotions (love and hatred)  on the same person without any significant reason strong enough to turn those feelings around?
(as is the case with most of the break-ups nowadays).
WAIT..........
If you can turn your feelings around-from love to hatred, or just ignore your past to find a new relationship, and many of the times, the same thing gets repeated-A BREAKUP AGAIN!!  Then I guess, Maybe you have to rethink your definition of love. Maybe you are entering into a relationship because of some insecurity. And by doing this repeatedly, you may hurt the feelings of genuine lovers, you may hurt yourself, you may get depressed of failed relationships all the time. So my simple advice is to wait before you pass a judgment on your EX. Think of your reason for entering into love, if you find that to be your insecurities then try to overcome them through self-love. Search for love within yourself. Think of the reasons for your breakup, learn from them. Never repeat them. Finally, never wish or do harm to your ex, he(she) might be your ex, but never forget that once, you gave your heart to that person. That person might have given you some sweet memories to cherish on and some bitter ones to learn from. Take a lesson and then move on....
You know what I mean by moving on right!!!
cheers......... :-)
bye.
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