All these days I was searching for a topic that would better suit my blog, which reflects my innermost quest for truth, on my way of self exploration rather, self improvement.
The other day I read a book on self improvement by Robin Sharma, "Who Will Cry When You Die".
That book had a magical spell on me.I rediscovered myself, while my eyes walked through the pages of that book.Thanks to Robin Sharma, I found a topic on which I can think deeper and add value to my life.
Have you ever recognized that we human beings ,the social animals, always want a companion to express our feelings? I wonder how those relationships that we claim to be selfless : friendship, love etc., are built on TRUST. The trust that the other person will be there to hear me in moments of distress.
The more we express to others the more will the bond be strengthened, is the generally understood notion on building a relationship.But as we observe, we can learn that human relations, built on trust ,are basically strengthened by the ability of listening to others and understanding their feelings.When you throw your ear to someone speaking, she feels a sense of recognition , necessary for the development of positive feeling towards someone.If you respond to her words after understanding them ,by looking behind her eye balls it would give her greatest pleasure.
But in many conversations,I observed a tendency to project their own point of view without understanding, rather, acknowledging others words.There lies a competition between different parties involved in conversation to push their view to be heard, to be understood.In doing so they forget the simple fact that "you can only be heard by hearing someone".In most of the conversations, people ,while hearing to others ,build their own conversation that is to be followed.This is making people less attached to each other.The sense of trust is not at all given some space to build up.I find many people shocked at the way some great people like APJ receive people, pay attention to others views,and respond instead of react. In many forums I noticed that, people say "how can such a great man give his time to a small being like me? He took everything I spoke into consideration". The fact is that it is that basic quality that makes those people great indeed.God blessed us with the ability to talk ,to express our feelings clearly and he gave us two ears to pay attention to others words, as a responsibility .We human beings often tend to forget our responsibilities only to realize later that without doing our duty we cannot get our rights....................!
The other day I read a book on self improvement by Robin Sharma, "Who Will Cry When You Die".
That book had a magical spell on me.I rediscovered myself, while my eyes walked through the pages of that book.Thanks to Robin Sharma, I found a topic on which I can think deeper and add value to my life.
Have you ever recognized that we human beings ,the social animals, always want a companion to express our feelings? I wonder how those relationships that we claim to be selfless : friendship, love etc., are built on TRUST. The trust that the other person will be there to hear me in moments of distress.
The more we express to others the more will the bond be strengthened, is the generally understood notion on building a relationship.But as we observe, we can learn that human relations, built on trust ,are basically strengthened by the ability of listening to others and understanding their feelings.When you throw your ear to someone speaking, she feels a sense of recognition , necessary for the development of positive feeling towards someone.If you respond to her words after understanding them ,by looking behind her eye balls it would give her greatest pleasure.
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